I've learned to distinguish between the goals that can be relaxed and those that can't be

A picture of a dog in a jacket that's meant to, somehow, keep it calm.

For a long time, I thought of not-doing-a-worthwhile-thing as being somewhat equivalent to doing-an-unworthwhile-thing. For example, I thought of not meeting my weekly word count as being equivalent to spending all day eating junk food. I didn't draw the distinction between actions t…