I just want a doctor who will treat me with respect

There's a difference between tact and respect. Tact is a negative virtue: it means not saying or doing anything to offend. Respect, on the other hand, is a positive virtue. If you respect someone, you trust their words and their judgement. You listen to what they have to say.

It's a little odd that I'm affianced to a medical doctor (and that my life is n…